Frequently Asked Questions and Concerns
In my first session with a counselor, who talks first?
Either person.  If the client wants to jump right into discussing their issue, that’s perfectly acceptable.  If the client becomes hesitant, the counselor will identify this and gently move the conversation ahead.

What if I reveal something that is, well, embarrassing?
The primary role of the therapist is to receive information and help the client process the information.  Your therapist has been trained to be accepting of a wide range of scenarios.  If, on the rare occasion that a particular counselor has a particular sense of unease with a particular subject matter, then the counselor will make this clear if it could affect the therapy session.  In most cases, the therapist is in a role to help and may have already been exposed to multiple scenarios worse off than what most people are concerned about.

How does my therapist solve my problems?
First and foremost, the therapist doesn’t solve the problem.  Most therapists feel that the client is best equipped to resolve the issue because the client has a better perspective on the issue as a whole.  The therapist is in a role to assist in helping the client determine the best course of action based off of the information provided.  This can be done through questioning motivations, reaffirming values or goals, assisting in determining possible outcomes, etc.

My friend went to a therapist for a several years, is this normal?
The overall length of therapy is on a case by case basis.  Some contributing factors in the length of therapy are:  insurance benefits, type of issue needing resolution, client motivation, client schedule availability, etc. 

Do I have to share all my personal history, or secrets, with a therapist?
No.  Most therapists are interested in the information that is relevant to the primary issue(s) at hand.  The client reserves all rights to sharing or withholding information.  The therapist may ask for more information as a means to understanding the overall concern better.